When HE Has Trust Issues...

I've talked about women not knowing how to let a man love them, but I've noticed a lot of men don't know how to be loved as well. It's so hard trying to be with a man that has been through a lot and been hurt so many times that he thinks everybody is out to get him. It doesn't matter what you do to show him that you're different, he won't let you in. You start to become frustrated wondering if it's something you've done or said. Maybe even consider leaving because you feel like a stranger in your own home. Like most women, men have trust issues and barriers built in attempt to refrain from being hurt. I think it's 10 times worst for men because they've adopted this hardcore mentality so they think they aren't supposed to show emotions.

A Threesome?... No Thank You!

During a conversation with an old friend, threesomes came up. Yes, like Ménage à 3! I’ve never had a threesome and he said he’s had a couple, I was flabbergasted. Let’s be honest, at some point in our lives, we’re all curious. Now, I know I couldn’t go through with something like this for several reasons… but the questions wouldn’t stop coming and when the conversation was over, I thought of more questions I wanted to ask. Whose idea was it? Were you in a relationship with any of them? Do you need multiple women to satisfy you sexually? I had questions galore! I mean, I’m a writer… yes, I’m nosey!

Missing Trey

When I met Trey, I was involved. The guy I was dating had me on an emotional roller coaster. When it was good, it was great but when it was bad, it was ugly. There were days I didn’t know if I was coming or going. Foolishly in love, I had settled for whatever it was this man and I had. After standing by silently and allowing me to cry on his shoulder for months, Trey said, “Why do you keep letting him put you through that? Give me a chance to show you how you deserve to be treated?” The following week we went on a date and became practically inseparable. Slowly, this other guy was becoming a distant memory. Trey was like a knight in shining armor, rescuing me from myself. He treated me with the utmost respect and taught me how to treat a man. Everything was fresh and fun. We had petty arguments like all couples but nothing felt forced, it just flowed.

Because of You (poem)

It’s because of you I am woman, you’re the reason I’m unafraid.

I now take chances fearlessly, for you’ve taught me to be brave

Your love, it fuels my confidence and kills all insecurities,

The Art of Submission

Don’t get too excited, there won’t be any whips and chains in this post! What is Submission exactly? Somewhere along the way, we have all created our personal definition for the term so I’ll give my opinion. Submission isn’t summed up to a woman being at a man’s beck and call. It comes as a result of love, trust, and a desire to please. For the longest time, I didn’t believe in love so the thought of submitting myself to a man was ludicrous. When I finally did fall in love, there was a sense of vulnerability which allowed me to submit myself to him willing.

Help Him Help You

I’ve noticed men are habitually criticized for laziness, being deadbeats, unfaithfulness, etc. It’s not so often we see women praising the men that are working two jobs so she can go to school, enlisted in the Army to give her and their children a better life, or has given her $50,000 to start the business of her choice. About 75% of women would say these men don’t exist, I beg to differ. I’d say they are far and few in between, but they aren’t extinct.

First and foremost, if you’re in a relationship or still sleeping with this man you’re claiming is the scum of the Earth, save it, your slander is null and void. This means you aren’t aware

Return of the Ex

We all hesitate a bit when an ex send random “I miss you” text messages. For some it’s easy to brush off with a simple “oh” (which is my favorite comeback), then for some, it’s not as simple. Every now and then we actually miss them back or perhaps we’re still single and a little lonely. Your response to that text will tell him or her if there’s chance of sliding back into your good graces or if they should just leave well enough alone. Depending on the reason behind the break-up, we contemplate an invitation to catch up for old time sakes, even if deep down we know eventually we’re going to regret it later.